Posted by
AudiR10TDI on Monday, September 25, 2006 7:58:33 PM
A friend of mine here in Canada, whom I suspect is too young to remember life before Feminism, started a snarky thread on a discussion board inviting people to post "Five ways Feminism has helped me" -- meaning to have people post ways that the straw woman "feminist" (i.e. 'emasculating lesbian bleep') has in fact ruined life for Real Women (i.e. women married to their first husband, whose children are all products of that marriage).
I'm a spinster woman in the best 19th century meaning of the word, and I'd like to list here a number of ways Feminism has not only helped me, but made it possible for me to live an independent and fruitful life without being forced to remain in my parents' home or marry anybody who asked me and remain dependent on him until death.
(1) Feminism made it possible for me to rent an apartment in my own name, without having the lease countersigned by my Daddy, who was retired on disability from a job that paid way less than I was making the day I signed my first lease. The landlord of my first apartment had never met my Daddy and didn't know him from Adam's House Cat, but because he had the correct genitalia, his word was valid and mine was not.
(2) Feminism enabled me to have a credit card, and gave my sister the right to have a credit card in her own name -- Doris Jones, not Mrs. John Jones.
(3) Feminism made it illegal for the Dean of a University Law School to tell another generation of women "It's no use training girls to be anything -- they just get pregnant and quit", and to deny them admission 'because your grades are good enough if you were a man, but they'd have to be a lot better to get me to admit a girl.'
(4) Feminism gave my word as a witness in court the same weight as the word of a man, and my income the same weight as the income of a man when I'm considered for a home loan.
(5) Feminism made it illegal for race tracks to exclude me from working as a journalist 'because girls in the pitlane are unlucky.'
(6) Feminism made it possible for me to get a room in a nice hotel without being asked "Where's your husband?" or having the concierge shout for everyone to hear, "Miss Jones, your room is 205, right next to the elevator and the ice machine!"
(7) Feminism made it necessary for the doctor who asked me "Why don't you just go to a bar and pick up a guy if you want to get pregnant?" to apologize or face a lawsuit, and to publish a retraction of his printed statement that "All single women who want to conceive by AI are lesbians whether they know it or not."
(8) Feminism made it necessary for my boss to pay me a living wage, rather than the 'pin money' girls were paid when it was assumed a girl either lived with her parents or with her husband and it was he who needed a living wage, not her.
(9) Feminism made it illegal for a university to deny me a spot in a Logic class under the claim that "girls are not logical".
(10) Feminism disposed of the 10:00 p.m. curfew imposed on all women at my university, regardless of age or degree of emancipation, while letting all men of every age and condition roam free 24/7.
That's just a sampling of what feminism has done for me.
Contrary to the belief of so-called Real Women, whose real complaint is that they had a great racket going when men had all the rights and all a girl had to do was catch one and her life was settled for good, and women who chose not to live under that regime spoiled it by proving that women could in fact look after themselves and handle their lives as responsibly as men could.
Feminism doesn't want to take away anything from those who choose to marry and stay home and rear children; all it did for me was give me the welcome chance to opt out. And along the way it has provided benefits and freedom to those stay at home Moms and grandmothers and aunts and in fact all other women.
So before you start blaming everything that ever went wrong in your life on "feminism", stop and think what life would be like without it. And if you can't remember, ask your Mama. I'm guaranteeing she can.